Depression At Work

Depression is hard enough to talk about with friends and family, let alone with an employer you’re intent on impressing. Shame, guilt, humiliation, disapproval: There are many reasons, real and perceived, for keeping depression under wraps. But whether you say it out loud or keep your lips sealed, you’ve got to face your depression head-on or risk it ruining every aspect of your life, career included. Here are a few tips to keep in mind during this difficult time:

Confide in your boss. If your work has suffered but you’ve begun treatment, you might want to bring your boss up to speed and let him or her know that you’re on the road to recovery—especially if you have a good relationship. Don’t be surprised if your boss reveals his or her own struggles with depression; you could end up on the receiving end of some priceless advice from someone who’s been right where you are.

Keep your co-workers out of it. The office cooler is not the shrink’s couch. Though giving voice to feelings of loneliness and despair deserves applause, sharing your deepest feelings at every opportunity isn’t going to inspire any confidence in your employer or co-workers. Workplaces are human driven organisms, and humans can be coldly calculating. In the wrong hands, your personal information could be used to discredit you (“You don’t want someone that weak or unstable to handle the new client, do you?”). Don’t allow your depression to define who you are in the workplace. If you’re aching to share your struggle with a co-worker who also happens to be a good friend, do it outside of the office.

Treat yourself with care. Everyone’s depression is different. Sometimes it ebbs and flows, feeling better or worse at certain times during the day. Deep breathing and meditation during your afternoon coffee break can help keep it in check. On other days, a brisk walk in the sun or a lunch-hour chat with a close friend or family member does the trick. Indulge in little treats for yourself within the framework of your own workday routine that soothe your depression without putting your job at risk.

8 Things Worth for Splurges

You’re completely and utterly burned-out, and it’s going to take more than an energy drink for you to re-attack your life with unbridled enthusiasm. It’s time to bring out the big ones: the A list of splurges. Here, a few over-the-top ways to pamper yourself. After one of these indulgences, you’ll be recharged in no time.

1 Book a session with a real fashion photographer. We’re not talking Sears portrait studio or cheesy mall glamour shots. Make fun splurges such as a session with a photographer who regularly shoots for fashion magazines will give you an afternoon of diversion and an album of hot pics. You’re never too old for dress-up, so don some daring fashion and work it like you’re competing for the top slot on America’s Next Top Model. If you’re chronically un-photogenic, fear not: A fashion photog worth his salt knows what to say to make even the stiffest of the camera-shy cover-worthy. To find a photographer near you, log on to Guru.com.

2 Hire a personal concierge. Tedious tasks typically suck up what little free time we have: picking up the dry-cleaning, scheduling dental appointments, stocking up on coffee and toilet paper, reorganizing kitchen cupboards. Take a vacation from tedium and leave the grunt work to a personal concierge (available on retainer or hourly fees; check out www.headconcierge.com for more information). Even just a few weeks of handing over your to-do list will give you the breathing room to catch up on your downtime.

3 Hit the hydrotherapy at a nearby spa. For thousands of years, the tired and the weary have turned to the water for rejuvenation; for today’s bogged-down career woman, urban day spas replace Roman baths as the oasis in a desert of stress. Submerge yourself in a giant hydrotherapy tub loaded up with rose petals and delicious scents (think almond, chocolate, champagne, or honey), or go rainforest with 30 minutes on a Vichy table, a row of showerheads raining warm water the length of your tired body. Tack a pedicure or facial onto your treatments for head-to-toe bliss.

4 Drink chocolate. If you think hot chocolate is what happens when artificially sweetened cocoa powder meets hot water in a Styrofoam cup, your life is about to change. The growing popularity of European drinking chocolate (real dark chocolate melted and combined with hot water or milk) has taken hot chocolate out of the ice rinks and into fine-dining establishments. Seek out a chocolate café in your city and savor the cocoa shivers running up and down your spine. Makes that “chocolate or sex” question even harder to answer.

5 Enjoy a weekend away in your own city.Take a vacation from your life for a couple days without venturing far from home. Check into an amenities-heavy boutique hotel in your city (a change of scene without the accompanying hefty travel bill) and dine on room service and cheesy flicks on pay-per-view. Drag a girlfriend or two along for city tours and prepubescent slumber-party antics.

6 Hire a chef. Hungry for a gourmet meal? Let someone else slave over your hot stove. Whether you’re craving down home comfort food or a culinary journey through the Far East, a professional chef will cater a meal to delight your taste buds. Haul out your neglected flatware and überchic dishes, invite friends you haven’t seen in ages, supply the bubbly and delectable conversation, and let the chef do all the rest. For a list of chefs in your area, log on to the American Personal and Private Chef Association.

7 Have a hot night out. It’s hard to believe you’re a sexy thang in the prime of your life when your Friday nights are characterized by spreadsheets, stale coffee, and number crunching. Strap on your strappiest heels and head out for fruity cocktails at your city’s hot-spot-of-the-moment. So out of touch that you’re not sure where you’re going? Pick up Us Weekly (no joke), ’cause it’s bound to be hot where the paparazzi are skulking.

8 Jump-start your gym routine. For some women, breaking a sweat is all the splurge they need to feel renewed. If your body is your temple and you’re in major need of renovation, consider Gyrotonic. Marrying the principles of dance, gymnastics, Pilates, and yoga, Gyrotonic (performed on a pricey pulley tower that unfortunately resembles an S&M unit) stretches and strengthens muscles in circular exercises that’ll leave you limber and rejuvenated. Seek out a Gyrotonic gym in your area and jump on this fab trend before it goes cliché.

The Benefits of a Bath

The American way is the no-nonsense shower. Get wet, get clean, get it over with, get onto the next project. But there are many reasons why taking an occasional bath makes sense and can have mental and physical benefits. Here are 10 points, all supported by medical research and anecdotal evidence, to think about next time you’re singing in the shower.

Stress Reduction
Getting into the tub with some swirling water can help unwind the stress of the day and let your brain relax.

Better Sleep
Immersing yourself in hot water for 15 minutes before bedtime raises your body temperature and enhances your ability to fall asleep.

Hydrotherapy
Get relief for arthritis, aches and stiffness as warm water increases blood suppy to aching joint and inflamed areas of the body.

Oh Buoy
The buoyancy of water relaxes muscles and warm water decreases muscle tension for greater flexiblility.

Breathe Easier
Steam rising of hot water can open up nasal and bronchial passes, and aids in maintaining upper respiratory health.

Headache Relief
Some people find relief from headaches by soaking in a hot tub.

Heart Health
A recent Mayo Clinic studyfound that soaking in a hot tub provides some benefits of exercise, such as lowering blood pressure, without the strain.

Cover Your Back
Four of five Americans suffer from chronic back pain. Hot water alleviates lower back pain
as well as the common ailment of knee pain.

Skin Game
Soaking in a tub is an easy way to treat large areas of skin for itching, eczema, hives, dry or crusty skin, inflamed or chafed skin and poison ivy or oak.

Serenity and Peace
A hot tub can be a statement of taking control of your personal life and time, and locking out all the other demands. Aromatherapy, candles and music can rejuvenate you.